Archive for January, 2008

Is your Thumb Green or Black?

Thursday, January 31st, 2008
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In our quest to get our house ready to put on the market before Don leaves for Oregon next week (), Don and I have been on a major deep cleaning spree. We’re decluttering, consolidating, and literally cleaning the house from the ceilings down to the floors — and it’s taken us WEEKS to accomplish. Thank God we painted the inside of our house with a semi-gloss paint, because it has made such a huge difference in the cleaning process. Oh, and 409 multi-purpose cleaner has become my very favorite cleaner of choice. I think we’ve gone through two gallons of the stuff, and it cleans and lifts dirt/grime/grease like nothing else I’ve ever used. So, a big thumbs up to 409!

Anyway, during this cleaning process, I removed the many silk plants I had around the house. I don’t even want to talk about the layers of dust on the leaves of these things because it was quite embarrassing. So, I took them outside and sprayed them with . . . you guessed it . . . 409 cleaner, and the dirt/dust/grime just melted away. A quick spray with the hose and they looked sparkling clean and good as new. I love silk plants — they’re no fuss, they don’t require water or fertilizer, you don’t have to talk to them, and most importantly, they don’t DIE when they’re neglected.

This brings me around to today’s blog topic. We have one, and only one, live plant in this house, and it isn’t mine. It belongs to Don and I seriously don’t touch it. Three years ago when Don went in for gall bladder surgery, Carly sent him a beautiful plant. And over the past three years Don has cared for, and nurtured, this one plant that sits on the window sill in our kitchen where it can absorb some sun during the day. This plant has thrived and grown - - just with a few waterings a week and an occasional splash of coffee. Don carefully picks off the old dying leaves, and when it started to become this monster plant that threatened to take over our entire window sill, he had to put a stake in the pot and make sure that all the branches had something to twist around and climb up on. Don is very proud of his plant, and rightly so. It really is a pretty plant, which I admire from afar, because my thumb is black as death and I’m certain that one touch from me and it would wither and croak. I even told Don that when he goes to Oregon, he has to take the plant with him — I refuse to be responsible for keeping it alive. I can’t imagine living with the guilt if it died while he was gone — especially after he’s taken such good care of it for three years now!

So, what about you? Do you love real plants or prefer silk ones that require minimum care? Do you enjoy puttering around in a garden and plant flowers and other pretty things, or are you like me and plant something only to watch it die, no matter how hard you try and take care of it? Personally, I hate everything about outside gardening — the dirt, crawling around on your knees, pulling weeds from the planter beds, etc. However, I do admire (and envy) those that have beautiful yards with gorgeous flowers and landscaping.

On the Homestretch…

Wednesday, January 30th, 2008
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During one brief break from writing, I found this video on Gena Showalter’s blog. I laughed until tears were running down my face. Maybe it’s only funny to authors, but I about died. And since Gena and Jill Monroe have both guest blogged here at Plotmonkeys, I thought I’d share. Plus, it promos Gena’s work!

Enjoy! And keep watching that side bar…I’m getting closer…

And as an extra goodie…I love this on so many levels…thanks to the website The Good, the Bad and the Unread for this lovely diversion…

A Sneak Peek Excerpt…And A New Cover!

Tuesday, January 29th, 2008
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Hey all, I’m still deeeeeeeeeep in deadline heck and my brain is too fried to conjure up anything to say.

So I thought I’d do a couple of things. First, share a few pics from my birthday celebration of last week. (Yes, Bruce outdid himself, as my feeling-so-much-better-back can testify. Knowing I don’t feel comfortable getting professional massages, he bought me a gorgeous, professional massage table. And then set about using it, complete with hot stones. The man could make a fortune offering house-visit massage treatments!)

Anyway, that night, he and the kids had presents and cake and balloons and banners for me. Hilarious. Capped off with…a silly string fight in my family room!

The floors survived. The dogs not so much. But oh, what a wonderful day! (And the weekend in D.C. was the perfect finisher!)

I also thought I’d share this gorgeous new cover for my July Blaze, SLOW HANDS. Hot, eh? And you know what I noticed and loved the most? MY HERO HAS CHEST HAIR! lolol! Usually romance novel heroes look like bodybuilders who wax their chests. Not this guy–he’s realistic and totally hot. And I couldn’t be happier.

And now, to celebrate my hot new cover, how about a hot little excerpt to whet your appetite for this June release? This is book 1 of a two book miniseries called The Wrong Bed…Again And Again! They’re both about two bachelors sold at a charity auction. In this book, the hero, a super-adorable blue-collar hunk has been mistaken for an international gigolo. And neither he nor the heroine have figured out the mix-up yet.

Hope you enjoy…wish me luck on the book!

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“So who was he?” Jake asked, not even looking into her eyes as he reached for his beer.

“Who was who?”

“The guy who gave you such a negative outlook on love.”

He wondered for a moment if she would take offense, but her soft laughter told him she hadn’t. “Uh, remember who you’re talking to? Jason Turner’s daughter sitting over here?”

Jake had brought his mug to his mouth but hadn’t yet sipped. He slowly lowered it. “Your father is the one who convinced you you’re better off being alone?”

“For the most part.” Her eyes shifted, she wasn’t telling the whole story, but at least she was opening up a little.

He wasn’t willing to risk her shutting down by pushing into areas she didn’t want to discuss. Still, she’d brought it up–again. She’d mentioned her father’s romantic issues during their walk. “Just because he’s had some bad luck?”

“I’ve seen my father fall in and out of love so many times the word has simply lost its meaning. I’ve come to realize he’s in love with being in love.” Her mouth twisted. “Then there’s Tabby, my sister.”

The name hinted at what she was probably like. “Older or younger?”

“Older. Divorced once, on her second engagement since. She hasn’t quite nailed down that true love thing, either, though not for lack of trying. A lot.”

“And what about Madeleine?”

“Not interested.”

“Not even a chance you’re wrong about that, huh?”

She shook her head. “Nope. Not worth it.”

He pointed to her glass. “It’s more than half full.”

She pointed to his. “Yours is almost empty.”

“Easily remedied.” Reaching for the half-pitcher, he topped off his mug. “See? It’s all in your perspective.”

Maddy frowned in pessimism, though he’d swear he saw a hint of unguarded humor in her eyes. It was quickly gone and her manner returned to aloof, unaffected, unmoved. “Perspective doesn’t change fact. And I really don’t know why we’re even talking about this. We’re here, together, because of a charity obligation, not out of any real interest or…” her voice faltered for the first time, “…attraction.”

“Speak for yourself.”

Her pulse fluttered visibly in her throat.

“I am incredibly attracted to you.” He knew he risked scaring her off again, but could be nothing but honest. There was no way he could allow her to go on believing he was only here because she’d bid on him at some charity event. “In case that kiss earlier didn’t clue you in, let me give it to you straight: I have wanted you since I spotted you from behind the curtains the other night at the auction.”

For the second time since he’d known her, Jake had managed to shock Maddy speechless. She stared at him, blinking a few times, her mouth open but no sounds coming out.

Why the hell she should be surprised, he had no idea. She had to have seen the lust in his eyes the night they met, before he’d realized she wouldn’t appreciate any kind of obvious come-ons and gotten himself under control. And the woman was sexy enough to make a ninety year old beg his doctor for a year’s supply of Viagra.

Yet she seemed entirely oblivious to it.

Color washed through her beautiful cheeks. Maddy’s lips parted as she breathed across them and even from across the table he could see the way her chest moved with each deep inhalation.

His body reacted. The lazy hunger that had been flowing through his veins focused in tighter, right in his crotch. “You can’t tell me you didn’t realize it.”

She swallowed, shaking her head. “I did. But I just assumed you were being…that you were used to making women feel like you wanted them, because, you know, I’d bid so much.” Regaining some confidence, she leaned over and accused him with one hard stare. “You haven’t looked at me that way all day today.”

“Did you not notice that I almost tore a guy’s head off because he looked at you that way.”

“That’s different. He was drunk and stupid and…”

“Porcine?”

“Exactly.”

“I’m not a pig. I’m a gentleman.” Tension snapping between them, he leaned closer, keeping his voice low and intimate. Raking a hot glance over her, he admitted, “And a gentleman doesn’t come right out on a first date and tell a woman he wants to smother her beautiful nipples in sugar and then suck every bit of sweetness right out of her until she’s begging to be taken.”

She gasped, but he was too far gone. Both his mouth…and his body, which was now rock-hard beneath the table. “And it wouldn’t have been terribly polite of me to tell you I’ve been wondering all day what color panties you have on. Whether it’s a thong, whether the curves of your ass are really as round and soft as I think they are.”

“Jake….”

“Or that if I fell into your incredible breasts and smothered to death, I’d die with a smile on my face.”

“Oh my.”

“Or that when I touched your leg this afternoon, all I could think of was how slim your thighs are. How easily my hands would wrap around them. How amazing it would be to lift them over my shoulders, getting the best possible angle so I could plunge into you, hard, and fill you so completely you feel like you’re gonna break in half.”

“Holy shit,” someone said.

It wasn’t her.

Sanity returned as he realized their waitress stood beside the table, wide-eyed, pink-cheeked. And all ears. “Wow, hot stuff, if she says no, you can have my number!”

The young woman appeared entirely serious. Which didn’t help things, judging by the way the woman sitting across from him narrowed her eyes and clenched her arms tightly around her chest. Small wonder…he’d verbally molested her in front of witnesses. Some fricking gentleman.

“Jesus, Maddy…”

“We’re finished,” she snapped, almost launching herself to her feet. She threw a fistful of cash down on the table, ignoring the waitress, who still watched them, and not sparing Jake another glance.

She didn’t even wait for him, or look to see if he was following. Instead, without another word, she wove her way through the crowd toward the door, not looking left or right, her dark ponytail bouncing against her stiff shoulders with every step.

Oh, God, had he ever screwed this up.

“I’m sorry,” he mumbled to the waitress.

“Don’t apologize. I think I just came a little.”

Jake closed his eyes and shook his head, about as embarrassed as he’d ever been in his life. Heaven help him if his sisters–or worse, his father–ever heard about this. Talk about not treating a lady right. He’d blown it, starting with the sex talk that had been overheard, and ending with her throwing down a small fortune to pay for dinner, when he would never have let her pick up the tab.

Wanting to run out of the place, he settled for a fast walk. He hit the front door with both palms and strode outside, half-expecting to see Maddy’s tail lights as she zipped her tiny sports car out of the parking lot, dumping his butt right here at the bar.

But her car remained on the far side of the lot, where she’d parked it. He hadn’t gotten more than a half-dozen steps toward it in the warm evening air when he was grabbed. Two hands bunched in the front of his T-shirt and pushed him. Jake stumbled over his own feet until he was backed against the dark, shadowy side of the old brick building.

“Maddy…”

“Shut up.” Her eyes sparked and her breaths were choppy as she glared up at him. She looked ready to hit him.
Instead, she did something far more unexpected. She threw her arms around his neck, pressed that hot body against his, and caught his mouth in a deep, hard kiss.

She wasn’t angry. The ice princess was on fire.

It’s available for super-early pre-order, if you’re interested.

Could you pass your driver’s permit test today?

Monday, January 28th, 2008
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My daughter is turning 16 on Friday!
Not so fast! She has to take her NY State Driver’s License Permit test.
Which means she needs to study.
Which means I took a peek online to see what kind of questions she’d have to take.
Sample Click Here

I discovered I probably wouldn’t pass today.
I also discovered, as I do many times with my kids, I’m so glad I am NOT a teenager anymore.
The girl issues. The studying. The tests.
I’m really happy to be an adult.
That said, surely I am not old enough to have a 16 year old who is ready to drive.
Where did the time go?
But I’m excited for her, happy for her, proud of her … and younger than her.
At least in my mind.

What’s your favorite age? Thinking back, what was best?
For me, I’m happy where I am right now.

Friday’s Winner & A Sunday Funny!

Sunday, January 27th, 2008
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Tammy (Comment #79)

CONGRATULATIONS, Tammy! Please contact me at janelledenison @ sbcglobal.net with your mailing address and your choice of book from my backlist so I can mail out your prize package!

And now, a Sunday funny: WHO SAYS MEN DON’T REMEMBER ANNIVERSARIES?

A woman awoke during the night to find that her husband was not in their bed. She put on her robe and went downstairs to look for him. She found him sitting at the kitchen table with a hot cup of coffee in front of him. He appeared to be in deep thought….. just staring at the wall. She watched as he wiped a tear from his eye and took a sip of his coffee.

“What’s the matter, dear?” she whispered as she stepped into the room. Why are you down here at this time of night?”

The husband looked up from his coffee. “I’m just remembering when we first met 20 years ago and started dating. You were only 16. Do you remember back then?” he said solemnly.

The wife was touched to tears, thinking that her husband was so caring, so sensitive. “Yes, I do,” she replied.

The husband paused. The words were not coming easily. “Do you remember when your father caught us in the back seat of my car?”

“Yes, I remember,” said the wife, lowering herself into a chair beside him.

The husband continued, “Do you remember when he shoved the shotgun in my face and said, ‘Either you marry my daughter, or I will have you sent to jail for 20 years?”

“I remember that too,” she replied softly.

He wiped another tear from his cheek and said…..

“I would have gotten out today.”

Saturday Guest Blogger: Isabel Sharpe!

Saturday, January 26th, 2008
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I’m so excited to welcome fabulous author, Isabel Sharpe, to the jungle today! Isabel is one of the famous Temptresses…those are the authors who wrote for the much-missed Harlequin line, Temptation. She’s now writing for Blaze, as well as for Avon/Harper Collins, where she writes absolutely hilarious and poignant women’s fiction. I know I talked about her book, WOMEN ON THE EDGE OF A NERVOUS BREAKTHROUGH on the blog because frankly, it blew me away.

Today, Isabel is going to talk about pet peeves she’s developed after judging unpublished contests. We’re going to be talking about contests a bit in future months, so this post is PERFECT TIMING. Thanks for posting, Isabel!!! She has a Blaze out this month…and man, is the cover H-O-T.
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Hello, hello. Isabel Sharpe here as your guest. I just finished judging contest entries for an unpubbed contest, and was inspired to write a random list of personal pet peeves.

Unnecessary dialogue tags.

I know many published authors love dialogue tags, so I’m not going to tell you it’s wrong to use them, but they drive me insane.

“Does anybody know what’s on TV tonight?” Ron asked, caressing his remote in one hand and a bag of chips in the other. “I can’t find the TV Guide.”

It’s perfectly clear Ron is asking simply from the dialog, you don’t need to tell us. Much neater and more rhythmically balanced to my ear is the following:

“Does anybody know what’s on TV tonight?” Ron caressed his remote in one hand and a bag of chips in the other. “I can’t find the TV Guide.”

Simple dialog tags, (“I know,” Emma said.) are often either unnecessary, if it’s perfectly obvious Emma is due to speak next, or, if it’s not obvious, then a simple “said” can be plain lazy if action would illustrate more about the scene or her mood. (“I know.” Emma tried not to gag at the mere thought.) If you have several people speaking or need the dialog to rush past, then a “he said” or “she said” can serve you well, but most of the time, blech, they’re filler.

Sometimes authors, when they want to show a character is pausing between bits of dialog, and they use a tag. “I know,” he said. “I’m sorry.” Lazy! Give him something to do or think, so the reader can really picture the pause and understand it. “I know.” He started to reach for her, then let his hand drop. “I’m sorry.”

Alternating dialogue and action
I see this a lot in contest entries:

“What time is it?” Marie looked ruefully at her broken watch. “I can’t tell on this thing.” She looked over her shoulder. “Oh look, here comes Fred with the donkey.” Her nose wrinkled. “I hope he gave it a bath.”

Try not to interrupt dialogue more than once.

“What time is it? I can’t tell on this thing.” Marie looked ruefully at her broken watch, then glanced over her shoulder and wrinkled her nose. “Oh look, here comes Fred with the donkey. I hope he gave it a bath.”

Use of clichés

Whenever a phrase pops quickly into your head, check your subconscious to see if it’s because you’ve read it a thousand times already. (His “steely eyes” and “rugged good looks,” her “silken hair” and “creamy skin.”) Don’t assume that because you read it in published books, it’s The Right Way. Try more interesting words to get your point across, but please stop short of being ridiculous. If you find yourself using phrases like, “her skin crunched with citrussy need” then you have gone too far. Take special care with love scenes, where the language can get so ooky that people don’t even want to imagine what you’re describing.

Sometimes you do want an image or thought to slip by the reader easily, without drawing attention to your literary brilliance. In those cases, a cliché can work. Just don’t fill a page with them or people will feel as if they’ve read your book already.

Prologues that waste space

I often read prologues thinking that the material could have been told or shown later without lessening the emotion or plot impact. Ask yourself what your prologue accomplishes. If it just shows that a long time ago your hero and heroine loved each other, you can weave that in later. What’s more, that prologue is not likely to hook the reader the way the real start to your story would.

Not grounding the reader

I often read entries where I have the feeling the author knew her characters and scene and situation very well, but forgot that we don’t. If you can’t get a critique partner, then brainwash yourself and read the scene slowly and carefully, imagining that you have never encountered it before. Don’t forget to tell us where we are, when, what the POV character wants, and as much in-character detail as you can fit without being boring or slowing your pace.

Describing a movie.

This is when the author has done a great job describing what is going on, but she forgets that writing a book is not like explaining what’s going on in a movie to someone who can’t see. We need the internal life of the POV character and his/her interpretations of what’s going on, not those of an impartial observer. There might be a cuckoo clock on the wall, but you can tell us plenty about your character by showing us the clock the way she sees it. Is it ostentatious? Tacky? Juvenile? Sentimentally evocative? Make sure you are completely immersed in your characters’ heads, never just your own.

Well. I feel so much better now. Happy writing!

Janelle’s Jungle Madness Giveaway!

Friday, January 25th, 2008
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With Valentine’s day right around the corner, I thought chocolate would be appropriate. But my version is fat-free, sugar-free, and a whole lotta fun to play! Today’s winner will receive the Chocolate Monopoly game, along with a autographed copy of one of my books (winners choice, depending on availability).

Chocolate-opoly…A decadently delicious property trading game for chocolate lovers! Dark, milk, bittersweet, semi-sweet, in a shake, filled with caramel, covered in nuts, or as a warm, frothy brew - there’s nothing the cocoa bean can’t do. In Chocolate-opoly players buy favorite chocolate properties, collect chunks of chocolate and trade them in for chocolate factories. Sounds easy enough but pay your conching fees, suppress your cravings or get sent to Chocoholics Anonymous and it becomes a little more difficult…and a lot more fun! So choose your token and roll the dice! Who knows? You may be chosen as a “Supertaster” or you may experience Death by Chocolate. Here’s a game for the true chocophile!

All you have to do to enter to today’s contest is post a comment below, then check back on Sunday to see if you’re this week’s winner!

And just for fun, a question for you all: What is your favorite board game? Mine is Balderdash.

Happy Birthday Leslie!

Thursday, January 24th, 2008
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We have a birthday in the jungle today. A big, huge, HAPPY BIRTHDAY to our fellow monkey pal, Leslie! Of course, this means today is all about partying, with plenty of cyber cake, presents, and good wishes for our birthday girl.

Of course, Leslie’s birthday just wouldn’t be complete without some hunks to pamper her for the day (while she’s working hard to finish the current work in progress!). So, I’ve gathered up my posse of hunks and they were more than happy to give Leslie the TLC she deserves — however, I did make it very clear to each one of them that cannolis were off limits because that’s Bruce’s thing. Not a problem, they said, and assured me that there were plenty of other ways to make Leslie feel special and very, very good.

So, without further ado, here are Leslie’s birthday hunks!

This guy wants to wish you a happy birthday. Pop his balloon for a very special surprise!

This hunk volunteered to give you a long, slow massage — any where you want or need!

Breakfast, lunch, dinner, or chocolate — this guy will feed you whatever your heart desires.

This hunk promised to draw you a hot bath and scrub your back — or any of those other hard to reach places.

As for this guy, well, he’s yours to do with as you please! Just make sure he’s out the door before Bruce gets home!

Have a happy birthday, Les, and try not to work too hard today (I’m talking about the book. You can work as hard as you like on your birthday hunks!). We love you!!!

Just Call Me Brick Red

Wednesday, January 23rd, 2008
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If you’ve been following the little indicator on the sidebar (scroll down!) you’ll see that I am about 75% done with my current book, THE PHANTOM’S TOUCH. This is good, yes?

Well, yes…and no. See, the book is due in two weeks. I have a lot left to write. Today, I’m enjoying that 75%, because I’m about certain I’m going to cut two chapters in a few minutes. Cut. Slashed. Gone. Dropped to 70%. Or worse.

And yet, that February 1st deadline isn’t going anywhere.

This is the hard part of writing, I think…when you realize that something you’ve written is utter crap and has to go. Okay, it’s not crap. I mean, I’m sure it’s written well and all that. But I just completed a massive revision (self-imposed) on the first 3/4 of the book and those last two scenes just don’t fit anymore. Thanks to Leslie, my heroine is an emotional wreck in a scene I just added that wasn’t there before. That changes everything that will now come afterward…so those two scenes? No longer fit.

So, since I need to be writing today and not blogging, I’m posting a quiz. Have fun! I’ll check back in later with an update on my progress.


You Are a Red Crayon


Your world is colored with bright, vivid, wild colors.
You have a deep, complex personality - and you are always expressing something about yourself.
Bold and dominant, you are a natural leader. You have an energy that is intense… and sometimes overwhelming.
Your reaction to everything tends to be strong. You are the master of love-hate relationships.

Your color wheel opposite is green. Green people are way too mellow to understand what drives your energy.

What Color Crayon Are You?

I’m red…like my hair! The only thing that I take exception to is that my opposite is green. Green is my favorite color. My house is green in nearly every room…when it’s not blue, a color I love, but that I can’t wear. I wear a lot of green. It brings out the green in my hazel eyes and usually goes great with my red hair. But then, I’m a Gemini, which means I have a split personality. That works for me.

What color crayon are you?

I love crayons. Does anyone else still love crayons? I get all excited and buy those 96 packs for my daughter all the time…and I think I use them more than she does. (She prefers markers…but they have no subtelty. I’m a crayon girl!)

Please Welcome Special Guest Blogger…LESLIE’S HUSBAND!

Tuesday, January 22nd, 2008
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AKA: Bruce Kelly!

I’m in hell-week right now trying to finish this Blaze, so I’m going to be internet-less during the day until I finish. So I asked my very wonderful hubby to step in. He has a terrific blog of his own, he’s a wonderful writer, and he’s got some cool stuff to say.

A lot of you know him. Or at least you’ve heard about him. For those who don’t–Bruce is a wonderful father, a terrific friend, and a genuinely smart-interesting-good man. And the best husband I know. I am incredibly lucky, as I’ve been told many–many–times by other people.

Anyway, here’s Bruce’s take on love and romance. And if you like what he has to say, feel free to visit his blog sometime. It’s pretty cool–if a little more controversial than here! Bruce’s blog.

Welcome Bruce…thanks for covering for me today.

I’ll pay you back.

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I’d like to thank Leslie, Carly, Janelle and Julie for inviting me to guest blog today. I’m a big fan of the blog (and of the writers) and I do read it everyday. Although I’m normally in stealth mode many of you have seen me pop my head out from behind a tree or a bush now and then so hopefully you won’t mind my intrusion today.

I seem to have developed a reputation as a romantic husband. It was never my intention.
You dress up as a pirate on Valentine’s Day ONE TIME and poof, the next day you wake up a romantic guy…with your picture plastered all over work.

Honestly, if I hear one more person tell Leslie how lucky she is I’m going to explode. First of all, I am the lucky one. Without her there would be no point and I would have no inspiration to even think about romance. Second, do you have any idea what kind of pressure this puts on a guy? What are you going to do to top that Bruce? Jeez. Listen, I’m not complaining but I mean really, can I have permission to be grouchy and inconsiderate once in a while? (Note from Leslie: Only for one hour during the full moon.)

Being married to a (particular) romance writer is indeed wonderful but when people find out what your wife does many of them immediately have certain…expectations.

First there are the questions about the love scenes - always from guys – “Hey, tell me about the sex. Do you really do what she writes in the book?”. I’ve heard it so many times I’ve come up with standard answers so usually I don’t mind.

Then, usually from the ladies, you encounter the assumption that you’re some kind of expert on romance and they want you to reform their husband. Often with him standing there. His reaction generally involves an uncomfortable smile, a simple eye roll, mock retching sounds, or a glare that says “wait until recess buddy…I’m gonna kick you from one end of the playground to the other”.

Thanks.

Trust me. I’m no expert. What I am is a (more or less) regular guy who loves and respects his wife and who happens to be in a position to see behind the scenes of two subjects that most men supposedly know nothing about. Women and Romance.

I can’t give expert advice on either topic but I can offer a quick list of observations, opinions, and common sense. You’re welcome to them and feel free to share with guys in your lives who you think may benefit. (Just warn me if he’s heading toward the playground with a glare on his face.)

1. Romance DOES NOT equal sex.

2. Romance in its simplest form is no more than making someone feel special. Giving them complete attention and making them feel that there is no place you’d rather be and no one you’d rather be with. If you know the person this is a piece of cake. It involves very little effort and costs nothing but time.

3. Courtesy, consideration and respect. Always. You give it to people you work with, friends, strangers on the street. You can give it first and foremost to someone you love.

4. Emerson said “Don’t say things. What you are stands over you the while, and thunders so that I cannot hear what you say to the contrary.” That’s an eloquent way of saying actions speak louder than words. If you’re going to talk the talk, walk the walk.

5. In a relationship, when in doubt, Ladies First are words to live by. It works on so many levels.

6. In general. Men are National Hot Rod Association. Quarter mile track, lights flash, burn rubber, race to the finish, and pop goes the chute. Women are NASCAR. 500 laps and dangerous turns. You would do well to remember which track you’re on.

7. Preventive maintenance. You remember to service your car and your lawn mower. Remember to regularly service your relationship.

8. A review of some of the more important female erogenous zones: the bathroom, the kitchen, your bedroom, the laundry hamper, the trash can and recycling bin, the toilet seat lid. Whether you helped add to the mess or not, help clean it. You get credit for being considerate and she has less stress. Good combination.

9. This is a tough one for guys but…communicate. It heads off misunderstandings and pent up resentments. Learn to listen without interrupting.

10. Flowers from roadside flower vendors and foot rubs…for no reason.

Thanks for having me. I have to run. Leslie’s birthday is this week and I have work to do.