Let’s Talk About S*E*X
Thursday, January 11th, 2007That got your attention, didn’t it? At the risk of our blog being spammed, my topic today is all about sex. Well, actually, it’s all about what it takes for me to write a love scene for one of my books. So, yeah, sex is the topic for today. ![]()
One of the most difficult parts of a book for me to write is love scenes between the hero and heroine. While I can breeze through scenes with plot or characterization, I come to a writing crawl when it’s time for my hero and heroine to do the deed. It never used to be this way – but after writing 40+ books, those love scenes have become a big, time-consuming process for me.
Why, you ask? Well, for one, I want to make sure that the love scene between these two characters isn’t the same-‘ol, same-‘ol, if you know what I mean. (And that in itself is hard, considering how many love scenes I’ve written in my career! I mean, how many different ways can my hero and heroine DO IT?) And for me, writing a love scene is more than just the physical act of sex - - it’s about my characters connecting on an intimate and emotional level. That’s something that I won’t compromise on. I write romance, not erotica, so a lot of my focus is the character growth that develops during a love scene.
So, what does that entail? A whole lot of layering. At least for me, anyways. I wish I could sit down and write a love scene from beginning to end in a few hours, or even a day, without thinking about that layering process. I wish it all flowed naturally for me, but it doesn’t. Not anymore. ![]()
The first thing I do is figure out where the love scene is going to take place (bed, kitchen, up against the wall – you get my drift!) – and thank God I usually know this before I actually get to the scene, so that helps. Then I write the pure physical part of the sex — the position and clinical details. Once that’s done, I go back in and add in layers of sensuality, and that usually comes from describing the act with sensual, evocative words and sentences. It’s all about setting the scene by adding in sense of touch, what the characters are seeing and doing, and what they are feeling physically. It’s about the sexy dialogue and seduction. It’s about how a caress feels, a character’s reaction to a provocative stroke, and all those other sensory things that make a reader feel as if they are a part of the scene.
By now, I definitely have a very sexy love scene.
But now comes the tough part – layering in the emotional component of the scene. Usually by the time my characters make love, they are emotionally involved, and those emotions are usually intensified by the fact that they are taking this next step in their relationship. This emotional component can come from one or both characters, but before I even write the love scene I have to decide what character is the most emotionally involved at that moment – and that’s whose point of view the scene will be written from because I want the reader to see and feel what the character is.
Here is an example from the current story I’m writing. The beginning of this love scene is written from the hero’s point of view, so you’ll be getting some insight into what he is thinking and feeling. This paragraph started with the physical action – a kiss. Then came the sensuality, and lastly, the emotion the hero was feeling in that moment:
Her mouth was soft and yielding, a heavenly temptation he couldn’t resist, so he didn’t even try. Her lips parted, and he accepted the invitation to deepen the connection, to slide his tongue inside and curl around hers, dragging her into a hunger so dark and hot he burned with the intensity of it. He kissed her with a fierce urgency borne of knowing that she was truly okay and unharmed. Kissed her with an abundance of relief and gratitude and something else far more profound that echoed in the farthest recesses of his soul — an emotional, intimate bond that rocked the foundation of the solitary man he’d always been.
Driven by pure sensation, encouraged by the uninhibited way her fingers dug into the muscles bisecting his back and the arch of her hips against his, Joel backed her up against the shower stall, pressed the length of his body along Lora’s lush curves, and ravished her mouth with an overwhelming amount of passion and heat. His craving for her blazed through him like an out of control wildfire — a reckless, insatiable need he could no longer deny.
More. He needed more of Lora. Needed to touch and taste and savor every nuance that was uniquely hers.
I wish I could say that these few paragraphs were as easy and quick to write as it probably was for you to read. But no, it took me a few hours to nail down the action, the hero’s thoughts, the sensuality, the emotional impact of the scene. And this is just a very small part of the love scene as a whole. This is probably why I end up with 10-15 page love scenes, or even longer.
Which can be good or bad, depending on what a reader likes.
So, as a reader of romance, what do you prefer? Long, hot, sexy love scenes or short and sweet ones? Is it important to you that the love scene has an emotional element to it, or do you care if it’s just physical sex between the characters?













Oh, and I was completely and totally in love with Mark Hamill.







