My Person
Leslie’s post last week about Grey’s Anatomy reminded me of another Grey’s inspired topic. For those of you who don’t watch, I’ll sum it up: Cristina got engaged to Burke but she wanted it kept quiet from everyone until she (Cristina) told Meredith, her best friend. Burke slipped and told Chief. And he told two friends, and so on and so on … Cristina was furious and ran around the hospital looking for Meredith. Because the engagement wasn’t officially real to her until she told Meredith. Burke didn’t get it. Cristina explained (forgive me for paraphrasing here): Meredith was her person. If Cristina killed someone, the first person she’d call would be Meredith who would help her drag the body across the kitchen floor and get rid of it. Meredith was her person.
I got it immediately. I have my person. I also realized this is probably a female thing. But then an interesting discussion came up while we were waiting in Newark Airport hoping to finally get on the plane to Aruba. Someone (a female) asked if we’d seen Grey’s. And they asked about the person. Did I get it? Yes. Do I have one? Yes. Although my friend understood the point, my friend said she did not have a person. The funny thing was that I understood and expected that she wouldn’t have a person based on her personality and thoughts about people and life. Totally got it – for her.
Another friend came into the conversation. (Yes, half my town was on this flight). She said she had a person – and proceeded to name her sister and two friends. Uh-uh. You can not have more than one person. Another friend said she had more than one person because one of those persons lives too far away. I had to think on this for awhile. Again, a big uh-uh.
In my mind, the big moment comes: you kill someone and can only tell ONE person – I don’t care if other people live closer or are more convenient – there is just one person you trust enough to handle this with you and be there for you. You sell a book. You get engaged. You fulfill a lifelong dream. YOU CAN ONLY CALL ONE PERSON FIRST, THEREFORE YOU CAN ONLY HAVE ONE PERSON. IMO only, of course. But it’s my blog. I can say what I want. You get your turn later.
There’s one more part to this equation. Assuming this having a person theory applies to women only, I think your person has to be female. I think we’re talking about a friend who fills a spot in your life that family does not. Ask Cristina. She’d understand. Meredith is her person.
I know someone (and they know who they are
Your spouse can be your very best friend. You can have other friends who you adore and would do anything for and with. You can have other best friends. BUT YOU CAN ONLY HAVE ONE PERSON.
For me, this was a really fascinating conversation that opened up with a lot of people after that episode of Grey’s. So I have to ask: HOW MANY OF YOU AGREE WITH MY THEORY THAT YOU CAN ONLY HAVE ONE PERSON? AND THAT FOR WOMEN, THAT PERSON IS FEMALE? Inquiring minds want to know …
I totally get this, and I agree that it can’t be family. The PERSON is someone you’ve bonded with outside of familial ties, someone who totally gets you, who you go to when you’re in jail and need someone to bail you out. I also agree it’s gotta be someone of the same sex. As close as marriages are, there’s still that dividing line between men and women - Cristina & Burke being case in point.
Do I have a person? Not really. There is someone who came to mind because I know I could count on her for anything and she’s seen me at some of my most vulnerable moments as well as my happiest, but at the same time, I’m much more of a loner. Can’t explain it, but I count on me - maybe it’s a pride thing. I’m not good at asking for help LOL.
Comment by Stacy ~ — March 27, 2007 @ 6:18 am
I guess I’m not sure about the person being a guy. At one point in my life, in college, my best friend was a guy. And we didn’t have to hide any bodies, but there were enough other things that we went through and did for each other that I know he would have been the one I would have called if I’d needed help “hiding the body.”
I only have a few very close friends, so maybe that limits who I’d have to pick from to call. But I do have one friend who knows all of my secrets and already knows that, if hubby and I were to have a horrible accident and were both killed, there are certain….um, things, that I want her to go to my house and get out before anyone else has the chance to go through it. Namely parents and children! Isn’t that crazy? I’m 40 something and still worry about things like that!
Stacy, I understand where you’re coming from. I learned a long time ago to count on myself and know that I’m the only person who won’t ever let me down. But in case I’m not around for me - I’ve got a backup!
Comment by Jodie — March 27, 2007 @ 7:06 am
Carly, this is a really good question. It makes me think of that saying, “When you die, if you have 3 really good friends consider yourself lucky.” It’s really hard to find someone and become close enough to them, that you’d be willing to call them to help you in a dire situation.
Have you seen the movie, “Just Like Heaven” with Reese Witherspoon? (I think that’s the name). The best line in that whole movie is toward the end when one guy says to the other one, “Some day I’m gonna need help hiding the body and you’re the one I’m gonna call.”
Comment by Jodie — March 27, 2007 @ 7:11 am
I totally get the ONE Person. I have one and yes the person is a female. I am very close with my mom, sister, and my daughter but that is not my PERSON. I know regardless of the situation she would be there. I know that there are many things in which I would call her first and she me as well.
I read a something that was supposed to be a funny a long time ago and more than likely you’ve read it as well but for me it truly summed up the one PERSON. It goes like this: A good friend will bail you out of jail but a best friend will be sitting in jail with you saying “Damn that was fun!” I know without a doubt she would be there and go through anything with me. Regardless of what it was and even despite the consequences she would stand by me.
The one thing that makes this work is that I would do the same thing for her. To have that ONE PERSON it has to go both ways.
Thanks for today’s blog. I made me smile to realize how lucky I am to have this.
Comment by Vicki — March 27, 2007 @ 8:13 am
I totally get having a person. And yes, it would be a female now. But if you had asked me back in High School, it would have been a male. Yes, I was one of those girls who hung around with “the guys” because I just couldn’t figure out the different clicks the girls were in. It was too insane in High School and easier and more fun to be friends with the guys. So back then, it would have been a guy fir sure! Now however it is a female.
Although I have to say, I don’t think it “can’t” be family. My sisters and I along with my mom are very close. I wouldn’t hesitate to call my sister first.
Comment by Kelly F. — March 27, 2007 @ 8:13 am
I think it all depends. When you marry your elementary best friend from across the street, then yeah, your person is going to be male and your hubby.
Like a couple ladies above, I’m a loner. I have lots of girlfriends, but I’m not so close to one of them I’d call them up for a dead body. Stubborn as I am, I’d drag the dead body off myself. Unless dead body was large, then I’d call my hubby so he could heft dead body over his shoulder while I held the doors
Comment by Keri Ford — March 27, 2007 @ 8:20 am
In reading your post, I knew instantly who my person was. Not family, female friend, and she doesn’t exactly live close. But she is my person.
Veddy, veddy interesting…. :idea:
Comment by Rhonda Nelson — March 27, 2007 @ 8:25 am
Under all those few rules (cant be family, and needs to be female) I do not have a person. Friends have never been a big part of my life. I have few but we are close. However, I’ve been known to be extremely shy around others I dont know…which means I’m never FULLY comfortable around those in my life. I’m not married nor am I dating someone. If i did happen to kill someone the first person i would go to would be my older sister.
But I have a question for you. What if your person is a gay guy? Does that count since he’s more girly then guy?
And say we take away the whole has to be female thing. Lets say we add guys into the equation. What if a guy and a girl start out as friends and they are each others person cause they are best friends and very close. What if they get closer and start dating and eventually marry. Can they still be considered each others person since they started out as friends?
Comment by Emily — March 27, 2007 @ 8:36 am
See, Rhonda said it all. To me, that’s it. She instantly knew.
Comment by Carly — March 27, 2007 @ 8:42 am
Well, I definitely know who I’d call if I had to hide a body.
Comment by Julie Leto — March 27, 2007 @ 8:44 am
I really know what you mean. I have made so many friends in my time because I grew up in the military and I have lived in places a lot of people only dream about. But there is that ONE who would probably kill for me and then help me hide the body. Unfortunately, she lives on the west coast and I’m on the east but we still keep it together. She knows more about me then my Mom and I plan to keep it that way. Some things are just better left unsaid.
Comment by Carol — March 27, 2007 @ 8:46 am
Emily, you just plotted an excellent romance novel!
Comment by Julie Leto — March 27, 2007 @ 8:47 am
Definitely only one person. Mine is a fellow writing friend. Nothing seems real, no list, no sale, no RITA finalist, until I call her. She’s my go-to person and I am hers. Dead bodies, too. I’ve never killed someone, but I did make a complete fool of myself this past Saturday when I met Emily Robison from the Dixie Chicks. I was shopping at Bass Pro Shop with hubby and this lady walks up next to me with her stroller. It was Emily! I totally freaked. She lives in a very small town near mine, so I shouldn’t have been surprised to see her. But she was there shopping like everyone else, looking so normal. Anyway, I freaked. I didn’t want to blurt out her name and cause a riot, so I look at her and open my mouth and the only thing that comes out is “I know who you are.” She looks at me expectantly, but nothing else comes. That’s it. I crash and burn with a ridiculous smile on my face. I head for the nearest payphone and call “my person”. She’s sympathetic. My hubby thinks I’m a total moron. Anyhow, my twelve year old spent the next three hours walking around behind me going “Hey, mom. I know who you are.” He and hubby thought this was incredibly funny. I’m still trying to recover. Only my person got it.
Comment by Kimberly Raye — March 27, 2007 @ 8:56 am
Emily-
I loved the “gay guy” part.
Comment by Jodie — March 27, 2007 @ 8:56 am
I so get what you mean. I have a group of friends that we are there for each other for everything. But I do have one person in the group who is my person. She would be the one to call to get rid of the body. I’m very close to my sister too, but my person would just jump in without asking any questions. She is still the first person in the group I call with any good news.
Comment by Liza — March 27, 2007 @ 8:59 am
BTW, we talked about Grey’s at work and none of the men got the “my person” idea. So I do totally think it’s a woman thing and your person will be another woman.
Comment by Liza — March 27, 2007 @ 9:01 am
Mom, boy do i remember sitting in the airport for 3 and half hours
mainly all we did was talk about Grey’s Anatomy and who our people were…
Comment by jen — March 27, 2007 @ 9:11 am
great question.. gets my brain fired up for the day having to think ..lol.. but yes i have a person.. i didnt for years but i do now and shes my best friend and fellow army wife.. weve been through it all together while our husbands were in Iraq… i love having a person in my life.. i love my hubby and my folks.. but sometimes you need that person…
Comment by Jolene Fehr — March 27, 2007 @ 9:41 am
I knew immediately when I was watching Gray’s who my person was. No if, ands or buts. We have been friends for over 30 years and gone through it all together- and yes, we both know where the bodies are buried. She lives over 2 hours away now, but thanks to cable phone, we get to talk whenever we want. Or just provide heavy breathing while watching something on TV.
I have other friends, male and female alike, but she is the one. As the sign that she gave me says “We will always be best friends. I know too much”
But I also think your person can be a guy, probably gay, or just very atuned to having a woman as a best friend. Some guys can do that and would also understand the Person thing. Not many, but they are out there.
Comment by ev — March 27, 2007 @ 9:48 am
You hit the nail on the head with your blog today, Carly.
I totally agree with you about the definition of someone’s person.
You can only have one, gotta be a female and would be willing to walk through fire for each other.:doggie:
Comment by Gigi — March 27, 2007 @ 10:02 am
Yep, definitely have “My Person”, and for me it ties into the saying “You’ll always be my best friend, because you know too much!”
Comment by Janelle — March 27, 2007 @ 10:05 am
Kimberly, isn’t that the way it always happens? At my first National conference, I was star-struck by Connie Brockway in the elevator. (I should mention that I absolutely LOVE her work.) Anyway, my jaw drops, eyes widen, and I’m like, “Oh, my God. You’re Connie Brockway.” She merely smiled and said yes.
Like she wasn’t going to know who she was.
Comment by Rhonda Nelson — March 27, 2007 @ 10:24 am
Aww, Julie, shucks…you make me blush.
Comment by Leslie — March 27, 2007 @ 10:25 am
I guess according to this I don’t have a person because while I do have someone who I’d call first to help me hide the body…tell about a Rita nom…tell about the sale…tell about the cancer test…tell about how crappy I feel…anything and anything affecting my day…he’s the person I married.
But I guess he doesn’t qualify.
Comment by Leslie — March 27, 2007 @ 10:26 am
Les, :love2:
Comment by Julie Leto — March 27, 2007 @ 10:41 am
You know, I think Bruce is the exception to just about every rule.
Comment by Julie Leto — March 27, 2007 @ 10:42 am
Great topic Carly!
I have a very very best friend I call her to share lifes dramatic moments.
I will say however without a doubt if I had just killed someone she would
be my second call. I love my husband dearly. After 43 years there is no
question who is first in my life. So where I get it Carly I really do because
I so value my friend and call her for lots of sharing my first call for a dead
body is my one and only love.
Comment by jeannie — March 27, 2007 @ 10:46 am
Jeannie…exactly how I feel.
I *do* understand and I have people who would absolutely be my second call. Maybe to drive the car and be the lookout while Bruce and I do the digging for the grave. (Julie…you good driver you…
But he’s # 1.
Comment by Leslie — March 27, 2007 @ 10:47 am
Hey, if I call you, Les, I get two for the price of one!
Comment by Julie Leto — March 27, 2007 @ 10:59 am
You bet, baby…you know there’s nothing Bruce wouldn’t do for you!
Comment by Leslie — March 27, 2007 @ 11:16 am
Oh P.S. I just bought the Chandler Jr. Hoodie and I LOOOOOOOOOOVE:love2: IT! I’ve read all your books and LOVE LOVE LOVE THEM!! Thanks for all the great stories, you have inspired me to read more. I used to hate reading in school cause I was really bad at it. Turns out I just need a book that kept and held my interest. Thank you so very much.
Comment by Emily — March 27, 2007 @ 11:17 am
One person only. Totally and completely agree.
Comment by Jill — March 27, 2007 @ 11:34 am
My hubby is my person…I know he breaks the rule being male and all…lol but we were friends long before we were a couple, and from the day I met him 25 years ago ( I was still a teen) he was my person. He is the only person who really understands me..my hopes, dreams, fears…he knows me better than I know myself… and if there was a body to hide, I wouldn’t have to call him, he would have been there from the begining. So maybe according to Greys Anatomy guidelines he doesn’t fit the bill, but in my world there is no other person:love2:
Comment by Tina Martinesi — March 27, 2007 @ 12:08 pm
Karen, Leslie, Julie & Janelle, This blog is the most fun on the net! Your real lives put your Romances to shame… LOL.
Leslie, from what you’ve shown, NO ONE can beat your Bruce. How lucky both of you are to have found each other.
I, too, have my person. I live in L.A.: she lives in Brooklyn, but, when everything falls apart, she’s the one. She PROBABLY wouldn’t help bury the body (since we are both so much *good* & *scared* gals), but, with everything else, she’d be the one. Showing how much I think of her is that, when I went to the estate attorney to handle all the paperwork, she was #2 (after my son) to inherit & assume responsibility for overseeing all for my daughter’s benefit. My highest compliment, & a great friend to take on that responsibility. We both have sisters, but, we always say, inside, *we* are each other’s sister.
Patricia A.
Comment by Patricia — March 27, 2007 @ 12:20 pm
Leslie’s husband is in the room. Normally I keep my mouth shut and try to stay out of trouble but I hope that since I’ve been mentioned (he says blushingly
) ya’ll don’t mind me breaking silence.
Even though I’m a guy I do have a person that meets Carly’s criteria: I have only one and she’s definitely a woman. She’s the first and very often, the only person I think to talk to – about anything. My best friend, soul mate and, like Leslie, also the person I married. (Hi baby :love2
.
And Julie, Leslie is absolutely right (although I’m going to have to insist that with her back she won’t be doing any heavy lifting or digging). For you, the shovel and bag of lime can be in the trunk at a moment’s notice. As a matter of fact, for some of your bread pudding you don’t even need to have a body. Just give me a name.
Okay, back to lurking.
Comment by Bruce — March 27, 2007 @ 12:46 pm
Awww Bruce, I think you have alot of woman swooning right now!
Comment by Tina Martinesi — March 27, 2007 @ 12:51 pm
lol Tina…I keep telling him he should write a book on how to be a great husband.
He finally listened to me!
Comment by Leslie — March 27, 2007 @ 1:00 pm
Like Leslie and a few others, my husband is my one and only. He was my high school sweetheart and was The One then and is The One now. There’s no other person I share everything with and who knows me so well. I do think though that I would be The Person for a couple of my friends. Is it okay to be someone’s person but she not be yours? I’m much better at giving friendship than receiving it and would help out a friend no matter what, dead body and all. And they would be the ones I would call if my hubby was out of town when the body fell (while he gave directions and support over the cell phone).
Comment by Robin — March 27, 2007 @ 1:04 pm
Hi Bruce,
I think my hubby would agree with you. Everyone knows; at work, on committees, on boards, whatever it is, he tells them, “Don’t tell me something you don’t want me to share with my wife because I share everything with her.” In fact, he just got some distressing news at work, and instead of going to the co-owners of his business, he called me.
Now, having said that, I’m gonna put a damper on all that. Sometimes, not often, but sometimes it does get to be tiring to be someone’s “everything.” I think that’s where it’s important to have another “person.” Someone that’s not a total, complete part of your life, but yet they are. I know that probably doesn’t make sense, I just don’t know how to word it.
Comment by Jodie — March 27, 2007 @ 1:20 pm
Leslie’
It’s great to know there is still hope for some of us single gals.
This is me,
P.S. Does Bruce have a brother?
Comment by Carol — March 27, 2007 @ 1:23 pm
lol Carol…sorry, no single ones!
Comment by Leslie — March 27, 2007 @ 1:49 pm
You worded it just fine Jody and it makes perfect sense. It’s nice to have someone to lean on but leaning too often or too long isn’t healthy for either party. Life is about balance. Kahlil Gibran wrote something to the effect of, fill each other’s cup but don’t drink from only one, share each other’s bread but don’t eat from only one loaf…stand together but not too near together…
Comment by Bruce — March 27, 2007 @ 1:56 pm
Jodie, I don’t think being someones person necessarly means being there everything. Honestly for us its not tiring its effortless…like breathing. My husband and I both have friends and family that we trust and love and some that we are very close with,but it’s different….there is no-one that we trust with our deepest darkest thoughts & emotions than each other, no one else would undrstand. He’s seen me at my best, worst, and most vulnarable and without a doubt he’s my person.
Comment by Tina Martinesi — March 27, 2007 @ 2:03 pm
Geez…I am such a loser. My ‘person’ would be my mom. Hubby’s wonderful (okay, Bruce tops him, maybe I could send Bruce Hubby’s email and they could have a ‘chat’…LOL!). He’s my close second. My mom is so the first! I guess it comes from growing up in a house FULL of men (now, I have a house full of men, too!). Hubby is wonderful…he’s just busy a lot of the time (sounds more pathetic than it is!). His brain is always working. Most of my friends have young kids like me, so they are busy. A lot of them also don’t understand my situation (with my oldest)…they support me 120%, but they don’t know what it is like to be me. Not a bad thing, just tough if you have to explain to them why your kid is having a tough time for a month (or anything else I have gone through). I don’t wish it on anyone. I guess I look at Cristina and Meredith and go, ‘well, they have a sucky relationship with her family, so, of course, they have a ‘person’. Family is just too important to me. Just my opinion, don’t throw me out of the room.
Comment by katie — March 27, 2007 @ 3:13 pm
About men being the “person” (not talking husband men now), in college I also had a best guy friend … thought it was amazing until he found a red head he wanted to hook up with and ditched me. And I thought I was his BESTEST friend. So to me, guys as best friends are dogs (sorry Bruce) unless and until you marry them and they’re faithful.
Comment by Carly — March 27, 2007 @ 3:18 pm
Which might make gay guys, OK as your person (under my rules)
Comment by Carly — March 27, 2007 @ 3:19 pm
Bruce - I love that! I’ll have to find it so I can have the exact copy.
Katie - I understand what you go through. My son has a type of ADD and cyclical mood disorder which combined mimic bi-polar disorder. Things are good for a week or so and then watch out! Several weeks of sheer hell. I actually started video taping his rages so that the councelor could see it and then I had proof for when my friends or family would say, “It can’t be that bad.” Until someone lives it, constantly, they will never understand what a parent goes through with special needs children.
Carly - I’m sorry your college friend turned out to be a shmuck!
Comment by Jodie — March 27, 2007 @ 4:05 pm
Jodie….maybe you can be my person!
My son is pretty easy now with his autism and we are very lucky (well, now after a LOT of interventions), but no one ‘truly’ understands when he goes through that phase two/three times a year. My mom has been through it all (when husband was in denial, for example) with me. Stuff I wouldn’t wish on anyone. She’s still my person. If I had a body, she’d probably yell at me why I had a body and then she’d make me go to the police (okay, I would probably be running there anyway before I told her then because I wouldn’t have a body to begin with and would be too freaked out…I live such a square life!). Friends are great and I am grateful for them, but when the chips are down, my mom would stick by me 240%. She’s cried with me on many occasions (happy and sad tears) and told me to get out of the house on many occasions (because she’s seen stress on me before I do and watches my kids). She’s my person.
I think everyone needs a ‘person’, but I don’t think it should be ‘limited’. What works for one person, doesn’t another. Again, don’t hate me.
Comment by katie — March 27, 2007 @ 4:18 pm
My best friend Maureen. We met in 3rd grade and now live 80 miles apart, but nothings changed. She is the one and only person who truly understands me. Probably because she is exactly like me.
Comment by Lisa — March 27, 2007 @ 4:23 pm
Katie - my mom is AZ and I’m in NC. The distance is hard but we’re still very close. It’s hard for her to see what we go through when my son is in a “meltdown” as we call it. Since she’s not here often to see, I try to not even tell her about it because she gets so upset.
Hubby’s parents live less than 1/4 mile away so they have to see/deal with it often. We’re fortunate to have them though, because there are times we just have to trade off and let someone else take over for a while.
As for the body - my mom is GREAT about not being a parent. She’d probably yell at me after we buried the body, but she’d be there for me in a heartbeat!
Comment by Jodie — March 27, 2007 @ 4:27 pm
Katie big:thumbsup2: for Mom being your person!! Mom’s rock!
Comment by Tina Martinesi — March 27, 2007 @ 4:36 pm
Bruce, you could truly give some husband lessons! Seriously, Les, I think you should set something up for Nationals. “The Care And Feeding of the Writing Wife.” :-)
Comment by Rhonda Nelson — March 27, 2007 @ 4:41 pm
off on a tangent…was there a plotmonkeys newsletter out? I signed up, but never got one (I thought there was supposed to be one a couple of weeks ago).
Comment by katie — March 27, 2007 @ 4:45 pm
Tina - I’ve been thinking on your comments and I agree to some degree. Hubby and I are extremely close. He always calls me his “soul mate” and we often finish each others thoughts, we’re usually thinking the same things and we’re very in tune with each other.
However, like Bruce’s comment said, I still need some balance and another person to vent to (and to help hide the body).
Hubby’s profession makes this “body hiding” thing really tough for me. I actually would call him, since he runs a crematory it’d be real easy for him to help me hide the body. But that is TERRIBLE to even think that way - so let’s just forget I said it!
Comment by Jodie — March 27, 2007 @ 4:49 pm
katie, we’d never hate you! And yes, we sent out a newsletter…cant’ remember the date. Can you try signing up again? And check your spam folder if your email has one…it might have gotten stuck in there, unfortunately. We’re sending out another soon!
Comment by Julie Leto — March 27, 2007 @ 4:57 pm
OMG Jodie that’s not terrible its sooo funny
he’s the perfect one to call!!! lol
All kidding aside I think it’s just great to have someone, anyone, that you can count on to be your person, not just to hide the body but to share your life with.
Comment by Tina Martinesi — March 27, 2007 @ 5:00 pm
Hey hey hey, Katie–nobody hates anybody on this blog! We are all vibrant, proud, strong-willed people with opinions and beliefs and thoughts…and we all respect each other’s right to them. I’m so glad your Mom is so *there* for you. I hope my daughters will always feel that way about me.
Comment by Leslie — March 27, 2007 @ 5:12 pm
lolol Jodie…I like the way you think!
Comment by Leslie — March 27, 2007 @ 5:13 pm
Rhonda, you know, I have suggested that he pitch a workshop for RWA…lolol!
Comment by Leslie — March 27, 2007 @ 5:13 pm
You know, Carly, your post about your college pal is a really interesting one…one day we’re going to have to blog about whether it’s possible for men & women to truly & genuinely be “best friends” and *just* friends with no other connection whatsoever.
I personally think sex will almost always get in the way…one will want it, the other one won’t. One will get more invested than the other. One will feel jealous or territorial or judgemental about the other’s choice in dates, etc.
Comment by Leslie — March 27, 2007 @ 5:16 pm
I too had a best guy friend in college…and the sex thing did get in the way. I was fine just being friends, but he wanted more. We are still friends, but we never really got back to the old friendship(even once he got married). Bruce, I think you should give out marriage/dating classes to the single men of the world. Help out all the single ladies find great husband material.
Comment by Liza — March 27, 2007 @ 5:36 pm
Um…not telling in case I ever need them and the police confiscate my computer and find this post - Okay so I have a overactive imagination!!
Comment by Liz — March 27, 2007 @ 5:36 pm
Bruce, I wish there were more men like you in this world. I wasn’t so lucky in my choice of mates!! You & Leslie are blessed to have each other. :love2:
He has been there for me many times. Thank heavens I’ve been blessed with some awesome relatives. 
Carly, I so get your guidelines of a person & understand why it can’t be family. My person has been a friend for over 40 years. We’ve leaned on each other through good times & bad. We can not see each other for months or longer & pick up like it was yesterday. When Christina was looking for Meredith to tell her she was engaged I understood what was going on. Aside from that, my brother has been so good to me & he would help me bury the body & want to know what the he## happened!!
Great subject for today.
Comment by Donna M — March 27, 2007 @ 5:39 pm
Leslie, on the male/female friendship topic, did you ever see Best Friends Wedding with Julia Roberts? I agree with you, I think sex would get in the way, unless of course he was gay…lol
Comment by Tina Martinesi — March 27, 2007 @ 6:04 pm
Les, yes the sex always gets in the way. Added to that, there’s the what happens when one falls in love with another person? The OTHER person usually ends that friendship!
Comment by Carly — March 27, 2007 @ 7:06 pm
No LOSERS HERE! My MOM would be my person if I thought family qualified, LOL. So yes I completely understand the mom person.
Comment by Carly — March 27, 2007 @ 7:06 pm
Katie, there WAS a newsletter. Resign up just in case, OK?
Comment by Carly — March 27, 2007 @ 7:07 pm
I could tell hubby, but I would have to make sure that 1) his batteries in his hearing aids were working and 2) repeat it numerous times or write it down.
Much easier to tell My Person.
Comment by ev — March 27, 2007 @ 7:39 pm
It’s all about having that go to person. Or if you don’t have one, knowing someone who can get rid of that body.
Comment by Yolanda — March 27, 2007 @ 9:51 pm
Darn right Yolanda.
And from here on out, I think all of us just go straight to Jodie’s husband.
Comment by Leslie — March 27, 2007 @ 10:24 pm
Jody,sorry I missed comment 47 yesterday. I wanted to make sure you had the reference. You can Google Kahlil Gibran and there are a few websites that have his complete works online. The quote I mentioned is from The Prophet in the chapter on marriage.
Great discussion yesterday Carly. Thanks everyone!
Comment by Bruce — March 28, 2007 @ 8:43 am
No question. My husband. I don’t even GO to RWA without him anymore. He’s the only person I tell everything to, even the things I tell my best female friends, he usually hears first. And I confide things to him I wouldn’t even tell them!
Comment by Alison — March 28, 2007 @ 6:28 pm