So, my daughter and I have been experiencing a strange phenomenon lately. I think it’s an offshoot of the fact that we are together 24/7–but more often than not, we can read each others minds.
It doesn’t happen all the time, but yesterday, for instance…she went with me to the grocery story. We went to the deli, where I ordered three things, then asked her to hang out and wait for them while I headed over to the produce section. I’d ordered 1/4 pound of three items–it really shouldn’t have taken very long, but the store is small and my daughter is nearly 13, so I didn’t worry too much…until I started to worry.
The moms out there know the feeling…it’s like we have an internal clock inside that judges precisely how long we should be separated from our child in public before something must be wrong. I’d plumbed the produce section for what I needed and she still wasn’t anywhere to be seen. So I headed back to the deli. Before she even made eye contact with me, she said, “I knew you were worried.”
From a distance, she felt it.
(The hold up was that at our deli, they want to give you samples of everything you order…this takes time, but of course, my daughter wasn’t about to say no to her favorite cheeses and deli meats!)
The other night, it happened in the dark. Because of an errant bug (welcome to Florida) in her room, she ended up sleeping with me. Lights were out…she was on the other side of the king-sized mattress…I was drifting off to sleep thinking about the dance class she had to go to…and she pipes up and says something about dance class.
No body language to read–no facial expressions.
Telepathy.
Now, I’m not psychic in any way at all. I’ve never had any experiences (until now) that are like this at all…but my daughter concluded after the grocery store incident that she was going to spend a little more time at her best friend’s house because this connection thing was freaking her out. She was there all afternoon yesterday and is likely returning to her own bed tonight.
So…have you ever had any weird psychic-like connections with anyone or experienced any other strange phenomena like that? Did it freak you out or did you just think it was kind of cool?
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It happens in the way where I think of someone I haven’t seen or spoken to in ages, then a day or 2 later, they call or show up. It’s actually kinda cool, like I willed them to call me or see me LOL.
This has happened before when I’ve dreamed of someone and I later see them in exactly the same way as the dream – the place, how they show up, etc. It’s like I’m psychic or something, but then there’s really no reason, you know. Like nothing significant happens, but it’s kinda neat. I like it LOL.
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I’ve experienced the first phenomena you described. It really makes you wonder about how interconnected we all really are.
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This happens so often with my mother that we are never surprised any more. We call her the family witch, in a very respectful way, of course.
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LOL! I’m glad I’m not alone!
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Yes, I have had a freaky experience similiar to that.
My daughter got married in 2005 – about a month or so prior to the big day I had a dream that I missed her wedding – I was getting myself ready and just could not get there in time. (Like that would really happen – lol) In the dream, I did get there after the fact and was trying to apologize for missing the nuptials and felt so stupid trying to explain and for some reason in the dream the reception was at the church which of course in reality it was not held there. I told her about my dream and she said the SAME NIGHT SHE HAD THE SAME DREAM!
I guess it just must have meant we were both worried about everything going off ok for the big day.
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Wow…having the same dream! That is freaky.
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don’t the experts say we only use like 10% of our brains? which, of course, leads to the question, what are we supposed to do with the rest (and why is it there if we don’t need it)?? but, maybe, there’s a part of our brains that connects us in some way subconsciously.
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kris, this is a very good point about our using only 10% of our brains…and I want to kiss you for saying “leads to the question” rather than “begs the question,” which is what people normally say and is totally incorrect! Score!
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My mom and I have had tons of weird experiences like that it was even worse when we lived in different states. I remember talking to her and she was so excited because she actually went shopping for herself and got a hair cut, I had just done the same thing neither of us telling the other, when I arrived for my visit and stepped off the plane our hair was exactly the same and we had the same clothes on. Now that I am with her all the time we have to do a clothes check before we leave, we always put the same color on.
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That’s hilarious! I think that could happen to my daughter and me except that my child refuses to cut her hair…ever! I have to cajole and threaten just to get her to do a trim!
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My mom can look at me and figure out what’s going on or wrong or whatever. I think it is because we are so ‘close’. I can figure out to a lesser extent about one of my boys, but not to the same extent as my mom and I. This drives my husband crazy, although my dad thinks it’s kinda cool.
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I can do this with my daughter, too. She can’t lie to me worth a damn…trouble is, it works in reverse, too.
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When I was little I was very telepathic, but then as I started talking about it, people started telling me I was crazy, and there was “no way” and similar comments like that. After a while, it started to fade.
Then, I did my high-school term paper on telepathy. The more I studied it, I came to realize that it’s actually a “normal” state that most of ignore – or, like your daughter, get freaked out about so we repress it. Since then, it’s not at all uncommon for this kind of thing to happen to me.
At my house, we call it “The field” and if I really want to talk to my oldest son, I start playing a game and send him “messages” through “the field.”
Very rarely does he not call me when I want him to. The connection with my youngest son isn’t nearly as strong as with my oldest. What I do find weird is that since my hubby’s surgery, our connection isn’t as strong as it once was. Wonder if they severed his telepathy line? 
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Isn’t it sad how we drum out the extraordinary from children? It makes you wonder how much more brain power we could harness if we encouraged “strangeness” in our kids rather than the opposite.
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My oldest and I often talk about what would our children be capable of if we didn’t constantly discourage them and say “You can’t do that” or “That’s not possible.” I think we would be absolutely amazed.
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I’m having a big party on my blog, complete with champagne, chocolate and hunks, if anyone wants to drop by and grab some.
Thanks for letting me share!!
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Congratulations! That is wonderful.
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This is so exciting, Alannah!!!
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Thanks, ya’ll!!!
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Thanks Bella!!
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My werid connection is with my hubby. We have gotten to the point where we can finish each others thoughts and sometimes we even know what the other one is thinking. All we need is look at each other. It still freaks me out when it happens. I think it is odd that I don’t have this kind of connection with my Mom or my daughters.
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I think that it is awesome to have that connection with someone, spouse or child or parent. It’s really cool.
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I dream situations before they happen. Not all the time, but enough that it really freaked me out when I was younger. Still happens to this day, but I don’t get freaked out as much anymore…as long as I don’t dream about someone’s death. Still freaks me out when I dream exactly how someone will die and it happens. Never know how soon, just how it will happen.
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Liza, as I have some pretty weird dreams, I’m very glad mine never come true! I’ve had a few disturbing ones and have called people in the middle of the night to make sure they are okay–and they always are. But I’ve never had one (knock wood) about my daughter. That would freak me out, esp. if we were apart.
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Julie my daughter and I share the same experience. I’ll be thinking of something and she’ll say something about that topic or vice versa. Sometimes we can even look at each other without saying anything and we just know. It must be the mother-daughter connection. I don’t think I’m psychic, I think it’s just the bond.
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Me, too. I don’t think I’m psychic–in fact, I’m sure I’m not. But I do trust my instincts more than most people do, I think. I’ve learned to trust them and they’ve rarely led me astray!
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I don’t think it is unusual to have that connection with someone you are close to such as mother-daughter, sisters, etc. Many times I have read that most of us do have some sort of physic abilities but it is never developed. Long ago I would pick up the phone to call someone and they would be on the other end. It is always startling! The phone did not ring! Often when one of my daughters calls I know who is on the other end. I don’t think it is freaky, just interesting.
Great subject Julie.
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It is interesting, Donna. As this is my one and only child, I guess I just never expected the connection to be so powerful…but it has been developing for a long time, LOL! I always thought I could tell what she wanted when she was an infant…now I’m pretty sure I could.
There were a few times when I had other people question my interpretation of a situation involving my daughter and when I listened to them, I ended up being sorry. Like when she was 5 and broke her finger and everyone (husband, neighbors, parents) assured me she was fine. I knew she wasn’t. TWO DAYS later, I finally took her to the doctor and they found the break. My pediatrician sent me to a specialist, who only wrapped her hand in an ACE bandage over a splint! I ended up taking her for a second opinion and getting her in a cast. Now, I don’t ask for anyone’s advice anymore except her doctor!
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I’ve had experiences like that but with animals and small children. It’s got to the point that my boyfriend doesn’t even bother to ask, “how did you know?”, anymore (he did slip and asked when I gave a little girl a paper napkin even though she didn’t tell me what she wanted).
The bit that astounded him was the tule elk dream I had. He kept trying to show me the elk but they were never where he thought they’d be. One Saturday night, I dreamed of seeing elk so we went on Sunday to look for them. And did we see them. There were more than 50 in one herd alone. He’s hoping I can dream about lotto numbers.
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That’s super cool! I think that qualifies as psychic!
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Hey Jules, sorry I am late. That is kind of freaky, but cool in its own way.
I have had weird experiences similar to what you describe. I have a friend who finishes my sentences. It is kind of crazy.
I gotta run, but I will come back later tonight to read through everyone’s responses.
Peace and love,
Paula R.
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When I was 13, My grandmother was in the hospital and my mother was staying with her. My baby sister and I were at my brother’s house with his wife. I was playing with my little sister in the floor when all of a sudden it
hit me that my grandmother had died and my mom was going to be calling
I told my sister-in-law she needed to answer the phone. It had not rang yet.
She asked me what I was talking about. I told her my mom was going to call and tell us that my grandmother had died. About 2 minutes later the phone rang. It was my mother telling us that my grandmother had passed away.
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My husband was a truckdriver and one morning while he was on the road at 4.30 in the morning, I woke with a terrible feeling as if something was wrong. he had been in a bad wreck where a drunk driver ran through a stop sign into the driver’s side of the truck. Sadly to say, the drunk driver was killed instantly. my husband was hurt bad, but after a few months was able to return to work. At the last truck stop, after his coffee break he realized than he didn’t have his seat belt on and fasten it. God was with him, to be sure. Thatwas the worse feeling I have ever had.
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I do it all the time!
I’ve done it with my mom,dad, sis,grandma,even my friends.It’s strongest with my mom,but I believe that’s because there’s a connection that’s always there,even before birth, you just have to know how to tap into it. I say stuff all the time that my friends and family are thinking or I’ll do something before they get the chance to tell me to do it or do it them selves.I say it’s strongest with my mom because instead of just getting the main point of what she was saying I’ll end up saying it word for word,exactly how she’s thinking it.I love being able to “read minds”!!!It makes my life easier,but it does frustrate the people around me alot 
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but mostly with dreams, and I think that’s because I get scared of stuff like this when I’m awake and able to think about it, lol
it’s to the point where my friends all say,”don’t dream about me!” because it freaks them out too. I knew when my grandfather died when i was a kid; I turned and said to my parents, “grandpa’s leaving!” and started crying and they were shocked when about 5 minutes later the hospital called to say his heart stopped and that we should come b/c they didnt know how much longer he could hold on.
Also in college, my sister had a room next to mine and unbeknownst to me had stayed up all night studying for a Classical Mythology test, which she considered her hardest subject because she hates reading and is a math person. Anyway, the next morning I woke from a crazily vivid dream about strange creatures, and a battle, and a mother and son, and for no real reason instantly went to my sister’s room and tell her. I not only saved her from oversleeping but also helped her pass her test because she’d not retained any of what she read because she couldn’t understand the language, but when I recounted the dream I told her the exact story she needed to read and in the form of like a movie so she recognized it and remembered it!
And those are just the benign stories, lol
there’s some truly crazy, creepy,