…the first Plotmonkey to forget to post her blog. I wish I had some elaborate story to make my brain fart understandable…but alas, I have nothing. Just another example of Julie forgetting what day of the week it is.
To me, September 20th is simply one day–my husband’s birthday.
:party::party::party:
The fact that the 20th is also Wednesday never even occured to me.
All other responsibilities surrounding this day fall away. Well, except for a long-scheduled appointment with my daughter’s pediatrician, which I’m 100% certain I would have forgotten if not for the fact that I’ve written it down in my calendar.
Oh, who am I kidding? Writing something down in my calendar means zip. Right this very second, I couldn’t tell you where my calendar is.
The only reason I didn’t forget the appointment is because they called me yesterday to remind me.
Family holidays (birthdays) pretty much are ingrained in my mind, so if by some wild chance I happen to know the day’s date, I’m okay. But I’m a scatterbrain and after you reach a certain age, you simply accept this about yourself and move along.
My husband, who is a Type-A personality, cannot understand this. You’d think after 15 years of marriage–and five years dating before that–he’d accept that I’m not a list-maker, not a PDA person. Alas, the poor man suffers. I make an effort every so often to be more organized…I had a list going for three weeks straight until this Monday…but it doesn’t last. I’m starting it again today. One more try! 
It’s not that I don’t WANT to be organized. It’s not that I don’t want to get things accomplished. My brain simply is wired to do what is necessary first and foremost and everything else just has to wait. And for some reason, this week has been nuts.
Not that the blog isn’t important…but this week, my focus has been on the hubby’s birthday, my daughter’s doctor’s appointment and various and sundry appointments and paperwork filings in relation to her schooling. Writing? What is writing? I haven’t turned my laptop on in a week.
The only thing that saves me from beating myself up over my inability to be the a) perfect blogger, b) perfect writer, c) perfect wife, d) perfect mother is the fact that I know that women everywhere suffer from the “I must do everything” disease. I just got off the phone with my SIL, who had her daycare provider quit with very little notice and now she’s struggling to figure out where to put her twin toddler daughters while she attempts to keep her job and take care of her two older children…all in the same week that my brother has to go out of town on business.
Made me feel a little stupid telling her I couldn’t talk long because I had to write my blog.
Anyway, for women everywhere who try to do everything right and sometimes just screw it up, I salute you! I toast you with a 
and send you the biggest of cyber-hugs because, hey, you gave it a shot. And I send two :cocktail: to the Plotmonkey readers for showing up here everyday for a dose of entertainment and commiseration in this challenge we call life!
By all reports, Julie Leto was a sweet child once, somewhat shy, preferring to play quietly in her room making up stories. However, being raised with three brothers in a loud, primarily Italian household did have its influences and Julie discovered her inner tough girl. That’s probably why most of her heroines kick serious butt. Writing sassy heroines has worked out, as she’s sold over forty books to four publishers featuring strong, confident women. Julie lives in Florida with her daughter, a spoiled dachshund, a haughty lynx-point Siamese and a wide range of relatives all within driving distance.
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BIG HUGS, Julie. It can only get better. Next time just ask one of us to put up a joke or something. We’re here for you, babe.
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Don’t worry about it, Julie. It will always get done. I put my stuff on my computer and send the important stuff to my hubby for his calendar. One of us is bound to remember. Happy birthday to your hubby!:thumbsup:
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Julie,
Are you spying on me? I swear you just described my life. My oldest plays football, my 5 year old is a cheerleader for his team and my 3 year old spits at all of the girls at cheer practice (I’m the cheerleading coach). I’m in charge of making sure everyone has everything! My husband needs his underarmour socks, my son needs underarmour (God forbid they were regular socks even just once) socks, my daughter needs THAT red T-shirt, the one with the girl cheerleader in the white outfit (NOT the one in the yellow outfit), and my 3 year old needs a bib for the spitting (just kidding). Anyhow, I’m in awe that you remember anything. I have a mailing list I’ve been working on with freebies for the past month and still haven’t gotten it out because hey, I can do the fun stuff, or I can write. Unfortunately, I turn on my computer everyday because I’m way overbooked because, you guessed it, I can’t say no to anything (which is why I, who never cheered, danced or so much as looked at a pom pom in high school) now have sixteen girls, ranging in age from 4-12, mimicking my every movement. Scary, huh? Back to the daily grind . . .
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Julie, I forgot! I saw Dirty Little Lies at my grocery store yesterday! A huge coup because our book section is itty bitty. AND you’d already sold two! Hooray!
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Oh, Julie, I could have written your post! I knew we were separated at birth–I am exactly the same way. My hubby is so organized. Has gone to this Franklin Covey class on staying organized and uses this planner and his little handheld organizer thingy. I’m like you–I don’t even know where my calendar is! I get through what I have to do now, today, and then try to remember what I have to do next week.
Hope Tim has a happy birthday!!
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I did the Franklin Covey class too – my former boss made me go – and it really helped me. If I don’t write it down, it doesn’t get done! My kids get upset because I’ll put “pick up kids at school” on my calendar but if I don’t write it down…well, they’d be really mad at me!
I’m sorry you’re struggling, but I enjoyed the blog. It was great marketing – it kept us coming back to find out what you had to say.
Happy Birthday to the hubby and I hope you all have a wonderful day.:D
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Hang in there Julie! There is only one way to go, and that is up!:thumbsup2:
I am half-organized. I do have my things in the places where I want them so I can go to them when I need them. BUT, then there are the bills……..I used to be a mess when I came to this. Now, I have devised the file system. It is a big help!
As for appointments, I am Mrs. Post-It note Queen! I have them everywhere! Mirrors, table, computer, etc. They are my lifeline to daily events and appointments. I can’t do a blackberry or a daily calendar book. I have to have my notes in front of my face or I forget to do it! I lead a very busy life!
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Phew…as long as no one was hurt. When I logged on this morning and didn’t see a new post the worrier in me started with my wild imagination.
Julie, we all forget things even the most organized people will eventually forget something.
Happy Birthday to your hubby. What kind of dessert are you making/buying?? I remember the post about what kind of dessert to get because of your nephews and your birthday being so close together.
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congrats to him:party:
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I am the oraganized one and I hate clutter
Kimberly my son also plays football
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:wallbash: I thought organization was a myth. And I think i will go back into denial. Have a great week everyone.
carol
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Just back from the pediatrician to all these wonderful posts! Glad I’m not the only mad woman in the world.
On the way home, we stopped at the pharmacy to fill prescriptions (and must go back b/c God forbid they are able to fill a prescription in less than an hour.) Then we went to grocery store, where we bought cards even though the grocery has the lamest cards…I mean, they had the card I bought him LAST year, for Pete’s sake! I have an hour to bake a cake as I have a meeting at my daughter’s school at 2pm and with all the parking issues, I must leave here no later than 1/2 hour before the meeting even though school is 10 minutes away. Then back home to pick up the cake, which is in the oven right now. (It’s a chocolate cake with homemade frosting–I make THE BEST frosting–and will be filled with Oreo Icecream courtesy of our Betty Crocker Bake-n-Fill, which my daughter has been DYING to use since we bought it in April.)
Then off to my mom’s house to help her cook spaghetti with crab sauce that my husband requested. Dinner, as always in my family, will be for 14 people. Yee-ha!
Oh, and of course, we have homework to do. And sometime in there, I do have to write more than just a blog, right?
Kim, the grocery? Really? Wow! First Walmart and now grocery stores? I have to give Pocket props for getting the book out. Awesome! Thanks for telling me.
Good news? I found my calendar. Best news? There isn’t anything written on it today that I forgot. However, I did go to next week and write “BLOG” on Tuesday. Just in case. Karen, I couldn’t have asked you guys to fill in for me…seriously, I NEVER EVEN THOUGHT about the fact that it was Wednesday/blog day. Never crossed my mind. La-la-la. You know I’ve been focused 100% on the princess’s school. And my daughter’s teacher “volunteered” me to help the kids with a writing project tomorrow morning! Yeah!
The descent into madness isn’t so bad, ladies…it really isn’t. :happy2:
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Julie glad that the day is progressing well for you……..:thumbsup2: I used to be super organized and find that I am a long way from that now, and for the life of me I am not sure what happened…….. Ahhh, well …. maybe someday it will all come together for me again……………:lol:
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Julie,
I know exactly how you feel. And isn’t it wonderful that so many people care about you?
I am so unorganized that I missed two doctor appointments last week. I used to use the little calendar with the alarm on my cell phone, but since I don’t work during the summer….let’s just say I forgot to make arrangements to pay the bill.
What kills me is that I am so organized at work. But at home, car, mind, etc……Well it is like a huge garbage dump, that gets stirred up by a tornado every now and then.
Also, I so get ‘volunteered’ for lots of stuff because I absolutely can not utter the word NO, it must be some sort of brain/vocab/speaking malfunction.
I hope hubby has a super b-day. Kudos to you for making it so special for him:cake:.
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Things can only get better for you!
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i’d be lost and done without my franklin day planner. i barely remember birthdays. awww julie – i hope you are forgiven.:cocktail:
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Hi Julie, you are not alone! I am not a very organized person but I always manage in my own way!!
Julie, I hope your husband has a wonderful birthday.
For those of you that can’t say “no”, I learned years ago that you just can’t do everything so I learned to say “no”, it was a wonderful thing. :)
The idea of being the perfect anything is highly overrated–you need to just be yourself & do the best you can. Trying to be perfect will drive you crazy!!
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Julie, this just proves how imperfect I am!! I forgot to let you know I finished reading The Domino Effect. It was very interesting certainly not the usual Blaze! :) Not that there is anything wrong with the usual Blaze. You did a great job. Thanks for a good read. :thumbsup2:
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JULIE,
MY FAVORITE!!! WHAT TIME IS DINNER? HOPE YOUR HUBBY HAS A GREAT BIRTHDAY.:present::present:
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Julie your
sounds so YUMMY
I forgot to take the chop meat out of the freezer this morning:wallbash: hubby called me on my way home from work asking what was for dinner:doh:
We ended up at Weny’s
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Hey Julie,
I hope everything went well at your daughters doctors appointment. your this week was my last week. Sick child.:cry: I couldn’t remember what day it was either and it was just the longest week.
Happy Birthday to your hubby:party: I hope he enjoys his birthday.
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I totally understand. I make list and leave them in my purse only to find out when I am back home that I of course forgot something on the list. Birthday’s I’m pretty good at remembering but for the life of me I want my dad’s birthday to be on the 9th every year when it’s really on the 16th.
I hope you had a wonderful evening and that your husband’s birthday was great. I love the way you always have such a big family birthday. I think that is really special.